The Technology of Peace
 
 
 
3.    We Must Talk to and listen with every side in the conflict; this means listening and trying to understand the “other sides” point of view.  Currently, Israel and the United States refuse to “talk with” Hamas,  Iran, North Korea, or Syria.  
 
    When people, even those labeled “insurgents”, “terrorist”, “illegal settlers”, or “armies of occupation” feel listened to and humanized, they are more likely to lower their defenses, and listen to those whom they fear and despise.  When both sides are listening, opportunities for peace often reveal themselves.
 
    “Understanding” and  “listening” does not mean “agreement,” and “talking” must take place on all levels, not merely among the top leaders, but among soldiers, civilians, teachers, landowners, and children.
 
    As Peace Makers, we must help our own leaders listen and understand the grievances of all parties, both “occupiers” as well as the “terrorists”.
 
    In this Photo, CPTer John Lynes talks with soldiers.
 
 
 
 
    
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 From the Israeli Information Center for Human Rights, March 15, 1993 - Settlers burning tires along the Jerusalem-Nablus Road,., July 28, 2002 - Settlers throw stones at Palestinian homes in Hebron, as soldiers stand idly by.   Talking and Listening is important.  What is going on in this scene that causes such fear and outrage?  Why are the soldiers standing by?  Who lives in these houses?  Why are the settlers throwing stones?  Talking and listening will go a long way to bringing peace.
Photo credit: Gil Cohen Magen, © Reuters, the peaceful sunset on Long Island Sound.
Talking and Listening...
 
 
Peace is possible, especially if...[we imagine ourselves]becoming friends and begin acting in ways that would promote such a friendship developing in reality...  A small handshake can make the unthinkable, the improbable-peace, friendship, harmony, and tolerance-not quite so remote.
 
            Bishop Desmund Tutu

   Many leaders in positions of Power forcefully oppose this important step toward Peace.  They tell us that: “We will not negotiate with Terrorists”, or that “We will not turn our backs on our allies” or that “We will not talk with them until they recognise us”.  

  This approach wrongly confuses being human with being weak.  Talking, listening, and understanding are not signs of weakness; they are natural human resources for resolving conflict.

   As Peace Makers, we must insist that our leaders begin talking with and listening to all sides of the conflict.  

   This simple step often requires training, focus, and determination.  It also requires leadership.